How to Attract Men: 13 Things He Wish You Knew
When it comes to learning how to impress him, flowers just aren’t going to cut it.
Men think differently than women. And what impresses us doesn’t always impress them.
But that’s what makes the dynamic fun and keeps things interesting.
So when it comes to learning how to attract men, it comes down to this:
Men, just like women, care about their relationship. They think about it. They talk about it with their friends. They try to find ways to improve it.
But that doesn’t mean they’ve cataloged everything they want in a partner – or figured out how to communicate their needs.
What if they say the wrong thing?
If they bring something up, will they risk making you feel like you’re not good enough?
They have to tread lightly, and oftentimes, they end up saying nothing at all. So here’s how to attract a man emotionally:
1. Have a Life of Your Own
If you learn to live your life to the fullest when he’s not there, you’ll have more good stories to tell him when he’s around.
And if there’s one thing I’ve learned from this book, it’s that every man values a successful and independent woman.
Not only does it make you more attractive, but it takes the pressure off of him.
Because when he feels like he’s the only one you come to for companionship, support, advice, – and everything between – it can become overwhelming.
Sure, he wants to be those things for you, but he also wants you to live your own life.
Have your own hobbies and group of friends you spend time with. Show him that you have your own things going for you.
Matthew Hussey gives the best dating advice I’ve ever heard. He’s helped me (and thousands of other women) get the guy of our dreams.
And Matthew Hussey calls this perceived value:
Men are part of your life but they don’t have to be your entire life. Ask him to join you, but be okay on your own.
2. Give Him Man-Time
This is commonly overlooked when it comes to figuring out how to attract men.
Here’s why:
When you’re really into him, you want to spend as much time as you can together.
But here’s the thing:
Do you ever just want to spend time with your friends and family? Aren’t there things you can only share with your sister or best friend?
He’s the same way.
It’s easy to get busy and forget to spend time with the people we care about. So if you notice he’s been busy lately, bring it up to him.
Encourage him to go see his friends.
Because if you never give him time to do his own thing, it can come across as controlling or clingy – even when you don’t mean for it to.
So tell him to go have fun. Be sweet about it. He’ll appreciate you for it.
Besides, it’ll make him want to cut the night short to come back to you.
3. Be Good At Something
We’re all impressed by someone who is great at what they do.
Man or woman – it’s really attractive.
So when you excel in a certain area, people notice. And if other people are noticing, then you can bet he is too.
Whether it’s at work, a sport, or a hobby – having something you’re good at (or passionate about) makes you desirable.
He’ll want to know more about it and he’ll show more interest in you because of it. Plus, it gives him something to brag on you about to his friends and family.
You don’t have to flaunt to the world that you’re awesome at this one thing, but it doesn’t hurt to show him your successful side.
4. Take Your Affection Outside
Let him know that you notice him.
In a recent study, 97% of men (which is as close to unanimous as it gets) say they want women to show her affection in public.
Men want a woman who’s confident enough to make a move. They want you to give them the green light that it’s okay to show PDA in public. It doesn’t mean you have to be all over him at the restaurant, but don’t shy away from being affectionate.
Kiss him, touch him, and get close.
All men need a little encouragement. He wants to know that you’re impressed by him too.
Guys usually won’t communicate directly when they want you to show more interest, but they’ll be happy when you do.
And by showing him that you notice him, he’ll be more likely to notice you too.
5. Laugh At Yourself
It shows your fun side.
Sense of humor serves as a mental matchmaker between two people. It’s an important aspect of intellectual compatibility.
Part of learning how to attract men comes down to this:
Can you make fun of yourself for the silly things you’ve done? Can you tease him about something silly he’s done?
Humor makes awkward situations less awkward, and it gives you a common ground to connect on. So laugh at yourself, laugh at him, and laugh together.
6. Have Confidence & Self-Worth
If there’s just one thing that you can do to impress your man, this is it.
Confidence trumps everything.
And it’s the unspoken belief of “I can handle it.”
Your self-worth is your inner valuation of yourself. It dictates how you treat yourself and how you respond to how others treat you.
Confidence and self-worth determine what you will and won’t tolerate, the standards you set, and how quickly you bounce back from setbacks.
Together, that makes up the core of everything I’ve mentioned so far:
Having something you’re good at, showing affection, and laughing at yourself. Confidence and self-worth often take time to build, but it’s well worth it to do so.
7. Show Your Best Side
If you want to impress him, then look good for yourself.
Have you been in a relationship for a while?
If you have, you might be no stranger to getting ‘comfortable’ around your man.
But still – keep your hygiene in check, spend some time on your hair, smell good, and wear nice clothes.
Taking good care of yourself is just as much for you as it is him.
You’ll not only look more attractive, but you’ll boost your own confidence. And most importantly, you’ll be showing him the best version of yourself.
8. Be Flirtatious
You know that amazing feeling of dating someone new – when you’re fun and flirtatious?
Bring that back.
It’s fun, exciting, and mysterious – especially if you’ve been together for a long time.
Because even if you’ve been together for years, he still doesn’t always know what’s on your mind. This isn’t just about learning how to attract men, it’s also about keeping them.
So use flirtation to your advantage and create a little mystery.
Show him that you’re responsive to him. Be the one to initiate intimacy between the two of you. It’s the perfect way to show him you care.
9. Respect Yourself
Men commit to women they respect.
And if you want a man (or anyone else) to respect you – it first starts with respecting yourself.
A woman who respects herself expects it from others. She quietly removes those who aren’t respectful of her from her life.
Having standards that you enforce with your actions – like expecting him to commit, or making him put effort towards building a relationship with you – are just a few ways to show him that you respect yourself.
There are plenty of people in life who settle for way less than they deserve. Or women who don’t make their standards clear.
You’re different. You respect yourself first. Show him that.
10. Show Interest in What He Likes
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve sat down and watched football with my man.
Do I enjoy it? No.
Do I even understand what’s going on? Also, no.
But I do it anyway.
Why? Because it lets him know that he’s important to me. I show him that with my actions.
He knows that football isn’t really my thing, but he also knows that I don’t mind doing something he enjoys.
So whatever your man is interested in: sports, cars, bikes, movies, etc – show interest in those things.
Maybe you go to a football game with him or make his favorite meal because you know he loves it.
Whatever it is, show him that you value him through your actions.
It makes him feel like you thought of him enough to make the effort. And this alone is a powerful tip on how to attract men.
It’ll strengthen the bond and make him feel closer to you, and it’s a great way to squeeze in some quality time.
11. Be Spontaneous
Relationships require work. Over time, it can be easy to fall into the day-to-day flow of life and same old routine.
Nobody wants a dull or boring relationship. And actually, that’s one of the most common mistakes women make in the bedroom.
Here’s the thing:
When your man sees spontaneity in you, he associates you with excitement, rather than the boredom commonly linked to monogamy.
When he thinks of you, he’ll know that you’ll have a good time together.
Why? Because you’ll be up for embracing a variety of new things.
Spontaneity impresses men and shows them that you’re someone they can enjoy the rest of his life with. So this is also a great tip on how to attract a husband.
Surprise him with a date night, spend time together, and try new things.
12. Show Gratitude
Saying “thank you” goes a long way in any relationship.
A recent study showed that acknowledging small acts of generosity strengthens the bonds with the people we care about.
That’s reason enough to let him know how you appreciate when he’s done something for you.
Words DO mean something. And if you truly mean it, he’ll feel it.
13. Take Care of Your Health
Eat well, get enough sleep, and make sure to exercise. Exercise strengthens your immune system, improves stamina, and enhances concentration.
It’s beneficial for you in so many ways. Plus, it’ll keep him attentive and attracted to you.
People who exercise regularly report feeling more confident, are more successful and have more sex with their partners.
And you’re more likely to eat healthy once you start following a fitness routine. So it’s a win-win.
Thanks for reading.
Recapping How to Attract Men:
1. Have a life of your own
2. Give him man-time
3. Be good at something
4. Show your affection outside
5. Laugh at yourself
6. Have confidence & self-worth
7. Show your best side
8. Be flirtatious
9. Respect yourself
10 Show interest in what he likes
11. Be spontaneous
12. Show gratitude
13. Take care of your health
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